Hello Rebels, and welcome back to my life.
So it’s a week past my 30th birthday, and that means that as of today, I have not smoked a cigarette for seven days.
I have had a couple of cigars—which is okay, per the terms of my quitting. I reserved for myself the right to an occasional scotch and cigar.
Two a week might not seem that occasional, but it was also my birthday week, and Sunday was the anniversary of the day my mother passed away, so I’m giving myself a pass.
The day I quit, and the day after that, were incredibly difficult. I went through intense physical and mental cravings and was just generally not that happy on any level.
However, by this point I’m doing pretty okay. I still have the urge to go have a cigarette, but it’s more of an urge for the motor functions, the holding, the lighting, the inhaling and the exhaling.
I don’t feel the physical craving for cigarette smoke any more, and I haven’t even been tempted to go buy myself a pack.
And check this out: my fingers, which have been tobacco-stained since I was eighteen, are starting to recover. You can actually see where the stain on my nails is growing away from the cuticles.
All in all, quitting has not proven to be that difficult for me. I feel like the worst is over with, and I don’t see any problems maintaining it moving forward.
Now with that being the case, if I were an unscrupulous individual, there is a thing I could do to try to take advantage of this situation.
What I could do is create a self-help product teaching people How to Quit Smoking. After all, I quit smoking, and it was easy, right?
So if I created a series of lessons or practices or philosophies you could adopt that could help you quit, you might be inclined to purchase that product, since you’re trying to quit and I did so successfully.
Or I could just write a book: I Am a Quitter (and so can you). It would probably sell pretty well. All you need to be successful as a self-help person is to be pretty successful yourself at whatever you’re teaching.
So why am I not going to do that? For one thing, I don’t feel a particular urge to do so. It doesn’t blow my kilt up. It does not excite me.
Now, of course, helping people quit smoking is a really worthwhile goal. Seriously. It’s very bad for you, you shouldn’t do it. I knew that while I was doing it.
But the core of the issue is: I don’t think I know better than anyone else how to help someone quit smoking.
I quit easily, yes, but as far as I can tell, that’s just because I’m lucky.
Maybe it has something to do with the fact that I decided to quit on my 30th birthday before I ever started smoking in the first place.
But for the average smoker out there, that’s not helpful advice, unless you have a time machine, in which case, why are you worried about quitting smoking? You have WAY more important things to be doing.
There’s all kinds of contributing factors that I think made it easy for me to quit cold turkey. For one thing, I hardly ever leave my house.
If I were at a job where everyone around me smoked during meals, it would have been a lot harder. So if you’re in that situation, nothing I could say would be very helpful to you.
And that’s the problem with a lot of self-help and internet education—especially when it comes to business. Too many people become personally successful, then think that they can turn that around and teach anything to do the same thing.
But when they do so, they completely ignore any personal privileges or advantages that might have contributed to their success.
That’s why a lot of online education rubs me the wrong way. And that’s why, once I found the Sterling & Stone guys, I latched on and have pretty much entirely avoided other online educators.
Because the way they’ve always worked at S&S is that they go off of a core philosophy, or maybe a few core philosophies, but then they just say what they’re doing and trying from moment to moment.
No guarantees, no super-sexy, “follow these twelve steps and you’ll be successful.” It’s one or two core, audience-focused business practices, and then a week-to-week log of how they’re producing and growing.
And that’s what quitting smoking is for me. The philosophy at the core of my quitting is that a longer life for my kids is more valuable than the admittedly VERY pleasurable act of smoking itself.
Past that, quitting cold turkey is just what worked for me. No patches, no gum, no nothing. I’m very lucky it did work for me, and I’m a lot happier as a result.
If it’s something you’re still struggling with, I understand, and I’m so sorry you still have to go through it. Best of luck, and try to keep in mind why you’re doing it. I believe you can make it through.
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Thank you so much for watching, and I will see you tomorrow. Byyye.