Hello Rebels, and welcome back to my life.
I’m making this video because a friend of a friend is going through something that I feel really strongly about, and maybe have some answers to.
What’s the real purpose of your life? What’s the WHY behind it all? What’s the point of you being here, in this time in human history, for, let’s say, the next sixty years?
Some of you already have an answer to those questions. Some don’t have some purpose you would call “grand,” and you’re fine with that. You want to be doctors or shopkeepers or parents or teachers and that is a fulfilling enough life in your eyes.
Lives like that are infinitely valuable. The world exists because of them. They are why stores exist where we can all buy food, and why all of human society can exist.
Everything else is just spice. And I enjoy spice on my food, but if I only had the spice, and didn’t have the food, I would die, and human society is the same way.
But there are people, and I am one of them, who want to be the spice.
It does not feel like enough to hold nine-to-five jobs all our lives. It does not feel like enough to have the average existence—whatever we think “average” means.
But trying to achieve something more is exhausting, and I would know. For the three years prior to this September, I was trying to make my life into something more than average, and I nearly gave up several times.
The only reason I kept at it was because I wanted to believe there was something for me in this life that was more than normal.
I would hear from friends about their jobs and their bosses and their mortgages and their car payments, and I got a sick feeling in my gut at the thought that I might get sucked into that kind of life. Not because it’s wrong, but because I knew it was wrong for me.
If you’re facing a similar situation in life, I’m not going to pretend to have THE big answer to the problem—but I will tell you the answer that I found, that worked for me.
This might be kind of a crappy thing to hear, but: the universe does not exist to give your life a purpose. I have never seen any hard evidence that purpose is an inherent component part of the physical universe.
Purpose comes from us, from human beings. Only the human being sees purpose or a lack of purpose, and only when we create purpose within ourselves, and for ourselves.
But at the same time, we need to live. We need to eat. We need to survive. And in order to do that, we often have to do things that don’t feel very purposeful.
Starbucks has some cool things going for it as a company, but let’s face it, if you’re a barista there, you’re probably don’t feel like you’re serving some higher goal.
That’s fine. Not everything you do in your life WILL serve some higher goal. In fact, most things WON’T.
But if you want something more out of your life, it is an unfortunate fact that most of the time, YOU will have to create it.
To do that, you have to decide that that sense of fulfillment is worth the stress you’re going to have to put into it. You’re going to have to give up a lot of relaxation time, a lot of hours that could otherwise be spent relaxing with a loved one or watching Netflix.
Instead you’re going to have to bang away at the keyboard or the camera or the drawing tablet and create your purpose from the ground up.
This isn’t to say you should NEVER relax or watch a movie. But you WILL have to sacrifice a lot to get where you want to go.
I am a white male in America with a private school education and a decently strong family safety net to fall back on if I ever had to. And it still took me three years of being nearly dead broke and in a constant state of anxiety about my future to get where I want to go.
If you have less societal privilege than me, it could take you longer. I really hope it doesn’t. But it probably will.
Now that I’ve finally broken through to this weird “other side” I find myself in, I have one overriding priority: do everything I can to keep it. Because it is so worth it now that I’m here.
But for someone who’s still on that road: you might feel like the universe, and even human society, wants you to fail.
And there might actually be figures in your life who don’t have your best interests at heart, but those people aside, here is some bleak encouragement: the universe, and even human society in general, don’t care about your goals at all.
They don’t want you to succeed, and they don’t want you to fail. They just don’t think about you. You are a nonentity to them.
If you’re lamenting the lack of a higher purpose in your day to day life, the sad report I have from my own experience is that life in general and society in particular won’t provide you with any.
You have to choose to take the hours between work and sleep, and even some of the hours you were GOING to use for sleep, and turn them instead to finding out what you want to do with your life, and then working your ass off to do it.
And you have to keep doing that until it provides the basic necessities of your life. And you CAN get to that point—but the universe has no vested interest in helping you do so.
Thanks for watching, Rebels. An extra special shoutout to my supporters on Patreon, who make my whole YouTube channel possible, and I will see you tomorrow. Byyye.